But neither Schenk nor Marin thought that would be the case. Just as some worry that vibrating sex toys may desensitize a woman’s vagina or clitoris, some may worry that the blewit! and its predecessors may desensitize the penis. “I think the vast majority of people would agree that being with a partner is an overall more fun and pleasurable experience, but your hand and vibrator is a much less complicated one,” he said. But there’s nothing wrong with masturbating while in a relationship, Marin said. He hopes the blewit! can help remove the stigma of masturbation and self-pleasure in the context of relationships-seeing as many in relationships are often uncomfortable with the idea that their partner may still be masturbating. Schenk said, “It doesn’t have to be guys finding it themselves and hiding it it can be something more open because it has that lack of fantasy.” But the blewit! takes a different, non-anatomical approach. Many male masturbation tools, such as the Fleshlight, are molded after the mouths, vaginas, and anuses of porn stars-something that the partner of the man buying the product may feel uncomfortable about. The blewit! has an emphasis on function, not fantasy, according to Schenk. “A lot of men don’t really put a lot of thought into their masturbation habits.” Removing stigma She added that she sometimes recommends male masturbators similar to the blewit! to her clients, adding she’s optimistic it can live up to its claims. “I think having a product can mimic more of the sensation of intercourse,” which can be helpful, she said. It’s essentially a guide to help men focus on the state of their arousal while using the device, so they can learn mindfulness in the context of sex as well.Īs a sex therapist, Marin believes men “don’t need a toy” to become more mindful about sex-but it couldn’t hurt. The difference in stimulation can make it difficult for some men to achieve orgasm with a partner.įor men who want to use the blewit! for performance training, they can use it in conjunction with blewit!’s “controlit!” program. Many men who masturbate with their hands do so by using the so-called “death grip,” he continued, meaning that they grip their penis with a strength that can’t be replicated through sex with a partner. “What we’re focusing on here is that masturbation is kind of like a dress rehearsal for sex,” he said, continuing that the closer the “dress rehearsal” is to the actual performance, the better.

He believes that similarity between the blewit! and the real deal will help men who want to improve their performance. The blewit!, however, is designed to be as close to a simulation of intercourse as possible, Schenk said. Usually mindful masturbation involves nothing more than using your hand. For those men, mindful masturbation may help. “A lot of men don’t really put a lot of thought into their masturbation habits.” But as they get older and begin having sex with a partner, “they’re starting to realize that they’re not lasting as long as they want to last,” she said. “That gets to be a pattern that is repeated and repeated,” Marin explained. This habit follows them into adulthood-much to some of their partners’ chagrin. These issues crop up for men, Marin continued, because as boys they may have focused on reaching orgasm as quickly as possible while masturbating to avoid getting caught by their parents. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin told the Daily Dot that mindful masturbation helps a lot of men get over issues like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and performance anxiety in the bedroom. Instead of orgasm being the main goal, sometimes the goal is to last longer, or practice maintaining an erection. Mindful masturbation is the practice of focusing on all the sensations and feelings of arousal while masturbating. When you talk about mindful masturbation, most men don’t know what you’re talking about.” “They go in, they get it done, and they leave-two, three minutes at most,” he said. A lot of men are very goal-oriented when they masturbate, he continued. The key to better sex life for men is mindfulness, blewit! CEO, CT Schenk, told the Daily Dot in a phone interview. Is it possible to masturbate your way to better sex? A new sex toy for men called the blewit! promises to help men who have performance anxiety or other issues in the bedroom get better at sex by addressing the problem, um, hands-on. This article contains sexually explicit material.